Lets get one thing straight; most women do not orgasm during penetrative sex. The reason why women are so proficient at faking orgasms is that this fact is not taught to us in Sex education when we were 13. We all sat through the biology of how to make babies without learning how to enjoy a sustained physical relationship, which involves mutual sexual fulfilment, and not perfecting the art of Meg Ryan like moans of ecstasy after a respectable period of pumping and thrusting. So far lets establish that you are not alone in struggling to orgasm during sex and that there is so much more you can do to attain climax whilst making love to your partner. 
The key word when it comes to female orgasm is the Clitoris. The Clit is the female pleasure zone and hosts hundreds of nerve endings ready for stimulation either by manual method of masturbation or using a clitoral vibrator. Lets focus on achieving female climax whilst enjoying sex with your partner.
There are some choices to be had and one is that your partner stimulates your labia before penetrative sex by either using his finger, a vibrator or indeed tongue during a session of oral sex. This will help you on your way to orgasm but it will mean that you orgasm separately and many couples like to climax together.
The best way to orgasm in tandem is to adopt a sexual position that enables you to massage the clitoris whilst the penis is inside. This isn’t as complicated as it sounds. Kneeling on all fours allows the hand to be slid between the legs or for your partner to reach around whilst entering from behind. If you prefer to lie on your back lift your legs up so that your feet are resting on your partners shoulders and use a vibrator to rub the clitoral lips. If you want to leave the hands completely free there are lots of marital aids that can enhance the stimulation to the female genitalia whilst you both concentrate on the job in hand.
The We-Vibe is inserted into the Vagina before the penis penetrates and supplies vibration and g spot stimulation that is sure to bring on genuine moans of ecstasy. The O Gee is another innovative sex toy that allows the vibrating length to nestle between your bodies and supply the much-needed buzz to the female pleasure spot.
Don’t worry if you have got stuck in a rut there is always a way to introduce some different methods or sex aids into the bedroom routine. It may not be a good idea to tell your partner that you have been faking orgasms for years but suggesting using a sex toy or encouraging a concentration at the clitoris can be easily implemented with mind-blowing results.